While people are celebrating, not believing, ignoring valentine’s day I am embracing my self worth. Realizing the true source of my usefulness and value. I have a question, How comfortable are you with your self-worth? Self-worth is important to the ultimate happiness you feel in your life because it is deeply tied into your ability to obtain your desires.
We are born knowing our self-worth; as life moves on, the comments, expectations, and attitudes of other people can wear down this natural sense of self-worth. Self-worth is what enables us to believe that we are capable of doing our best with our talents, of contributing well in society, and that we deserve to lead a fulfilling life. Building it up again is therefore natural, essential, and healthy. Our attitude and views towards/about our-self is VERY important. We should treat our-self with care, compassion, and respect and avoid overlaying how we think other people see us. Only we can give our-self the esteem boost needed.
Self-worth requires that we learn to listen to and rely upon our own feelings and not automatically respond to the feelings of other people. It’s time to Stop making your self-worth conditional on other people!
I read something today that I so want to share …
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: “What kind of man are you looking for?”
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, “Do you really want to know?”
Reluctantly, he said, “Yes.”
She began to expound:
“As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man…. or woman for that matter.
I am in the position to ask, “What can you bring to the table?”
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought & stated, “I am not referring to money. I need something more.”
“I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
“I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.
I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him.
I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business.
I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”
When she finished, she looked at him.
He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.
He said, “You are asking a lot.”
She replied, “I’m worth a lot.”
Maintain your focus on self-worth as an important part of what goes into making you whole.